Making it work when college grads move back home is easily said then done. CBS 2 News did a special on the Early Saturday Show with Dr. Janet Taylor, a psychiatrist who gave tips on how to make it work with college graduates.
Dr. Taylor’s tips appeared to be very helpful and even achievable for both the parent and the college kid. For me moving back home after graduating from undergrad was a bit challenging and at times unbearable. I eventually learned that I would either have to move or I would drive myself crazy, because my mom was being too much of a parent.
I moved out on my own for two years but came back home after I realized I needed to save money and the real world proved to be tougher than I expected. However I was pleasantly surprise to see that some of the tips and advice Dr. Taylor shared on CBS, I was already following.
Establish a Timetable: It’s key to establish how long this housing arrangement is going to last.
Clarify House Rules: So establishing mutual expectations for curfews, household chores, overnight guests, or even noise are important to work out early on. Parents can list three things that they absolutely cannot live with, and grown kids must respect this.
Consider Charging Rent: It is absolutely OK for parents to charge rent. This can also include utilities, cable, or other benefits they’re enjoying.
Avoid Slipping Into Old Roles: Try to avoid falling into traditional parent and child roles. This is difficult, but parents should steer clear of doing traditional things such as loaning their grown kid money, and doing their laundry.
Don’t Over-Parent: Parents should not get overly involved in their kids’ lives and personal relationships. This is not healthy for kids or parents, and parents need to respect their kids’ growing independence. Creating a dictatorship doesn’t help them grow as self-reliant individuals.
Many twitter users retweeted the CBS segment titled “Making It Work When College Grads Move Back Home”, which indicated to me that they were just as interested in the subject as I.
The tips shared by Dr. Taylor are a definite benefit for parents and college kids who experience the hassle of reuniting back under one roof. These are very simplistic rules that many can live by and can prove to help accomplish a much happier relationship.